Manage Anger

Releasing negative emotions may not be as difficult as you think. Although anger and frustration are not the most effective way in dealing with things, these emotions have served a purpose for you in the past. Understand that beneath anger is hurt. There are ways to resolve past issues and habits.

Anger allows us to stand up for ourselves in the face of danger; it is a natural defense mechanism intended to keep us from being abused when our boundaries have been violated or we believe we have been wronged.

Frustration  arises when we are deprived of the ability to stand up for ourselves, where the situation seems to have the upper hand and no immediate solution is apparent.

Both anger and frustration are about trying to maintain control, where our beliefs and the events occurring in the world around us are in conflict or, when things do not happen in accordance to our expectations. When we do not know how to deal with the world inside ourselves, we seek to lash out at what is outside of us.

These emotions stem from old unresolved memories.They are learned responses, which at times can serve a positive purpose. However consistent eruptions of these states of mind carry consequences. They affect us physically, mentally and emotionally.

Increase in the heart rate, blood pressure, a rise in the levels of adrenaline will accompany the tensing of muscles. The long-term affect of unresolved anger and frustration increase the likelihood of heart attacks, stroke and heightened cholesterol levels. The constant state of tensing your muscles can cause you to be tired, stressful, have headaches, back problems, and even affect your visions.

Combined with other negative emotions (fear, shame, guilt, abandonment) anger can contribute to any number of mental or physical disorders.

Why do we continue to do what we know is not good for us? Because we are conditioned to respond to events in whatever manner we have been taught. Those who have a high level of anger or a low tolerance for frustration, come from challenged childhood environments. These are learned ways of dealing with the world. Most of us have not learned to release this limitation, nor have we learned more effective methods of dealing with challenges.

There are ways of overcoming these learned responses. There methods to let go of what you don't desire to be. It does take a level of intention and commitment on your part, which is you wanting to change. 

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