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Allergies and You – Sneezing, Itching, Scratching

April 14, 2014 4:30 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Hypnotherapy can be highly effective at relieving the symptoms of allergies and works best on non-food allergies.  

Breath - HealWithinWhether you’re allergic to pollen, have a dust allergy, or gluten, you may have already begun to deal with allergy symptoms. From runny noses, itchy eyes and sneezes, to scratching and skin sensitivity. 

What you did not know is that through a hypnotic state, the allergic response is turned off as if turning off a light switch. Many times allergic reactions can be totally eliminated with only a few sessions. 

Here something to begin working with that’s quick and easy:

When you sense symptoms beginning, start with a few deep breaths, telling yourself (internally or out loud) to be calm… relax your body more and more with each out-breath… then notice how you are feeling around the symptoms
from a mental or emotional standpoint (“I can breathe through this”, “My body is safe”, “I am calm”).

You may have heard the term “hay fever,” but seasonal allergies, also known as seasonal allergic rhinitis, are triggered by several different types of pollen, but not by hay. When trees and grasses begin growing in the spring and early summer, they release light, powdery pollen that floats in the wind.  If you’re allergic to this pollen, it can result in sniffling, sneezing, wheezing, a runny nose, and itchy and watery eyes. For some people with asthma, pollen can also trigger an asthma attack. Allergy triggers, or allergens, vary depending on the time of year. in the early spring, tree pollen is the usual cause, and in late spring and summer it’s grass pollen that’s the problem.

So if you’re an allergy sufferer, how can you enjoy the outdoors without experiencing unpleasant symptoms? 
Here are a few tips:

  • Keep windows closed so pollen can’t drift in. Air conditioning will keep you more comfortable in hot, humid weather.  A word of caution, air conditioners can create the best conditions (damp and dark) for molds to grow in your home. 
  • Do some spring cleaning and often.
  • If possible, stay inside on windy days when pollen and spores can get blown around. 
  • Avoid being outdoors in the early morning hours (between 5 am and 10 am), when pollen counts are usually highest.
  • If you’ve been outside all day, remove and put it aside to be laundered, and take a shower after coming home. 
  • This will prevent you from taking all that pollen to bed with you.
  • Don’t hang your laundry outside to dry – it can trap pollen and mold, bringing them inside. Use your dryer instead.

Although the arrival of spring brings better weather, it also triggers the release of plant pollen that cause allergies. Hay fever affects about 10-15% of adults in industrialized nations. To treat this, many have turned to medications such as antihistamines, decongestants and sometimes steroids. But these can cause side-effects such as drowsiness, a dry mouth and raised blood pressure.

People itching for a solution to seasonal allergies could get help from self-hypnosis.  Simply focusing one’s thoughts on allergen-free environments can reduce symptoms of hay fever.  Allergy sufferers have sought alternatives approaches, including yoga, mindfulness, hypnosis and psychotherapy-related methods, to ease their irritation with itchy eyes and runny noses.  You too can!

To experience hypnosis and to learn self-hypnosis, please contact our office 818-551-1501.

Healthy Body

October 10, 2013 6:08 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Our hearts are more than blood-pumping muscles. We are biologically wired to be connected with others. What happens if our hearts are not connected?  We feel lack of love and acceptance, and become psychologically and spiritually bankrupt or dis-eased.

Cancer has become the 2nd leading cause of death in the United States, only behind heart disease. And it appears that it has reached this position directly proportional to the way we treat ourselves emotionally, mentally and physically, plus the stress that fills our lives.

Louise Hay describes cancer to be: ”Long-standing resentment, deep secret or grief eating away at the self”.  One of the benefits in what I offer in my practice is to empower my clients – to give them a sense of control”. That’s especially important in cancer treatment, since the disease often makes people feel they lost control, or their body is out of control.  

Healing Cocoon-Cancer Hypnosis Hypnosis as practiced in medicine isn’t something done to patients, but rather a technique they’re taught to use themselves. So why do we (at HealWithin) do what we do? What is the function of a hypnotherapist?  Like a conduit, we are here to guide you, to bring forth what’s stored in your subconscious mind by you and through you, to hold space, empower you, and connect you with your divine self.  Research suggests it may offer other, more tangible benefits, including: Better pain control. A recent 12-month trial study at Stanford University proved Self-hypnosis lessen or even eliminate the experience of pain for women with metastatic breast cancer, and relief from hot flashes. An antidote to fatigue. A common side effect of many cancer therapies—fatigue—can leave patients so tired they can barely get out of bed.

Studies are showing that hypnosis is a powerful and effective tool in dealing with the physical symptoms of cancer as well as decreasing need for anesthesia during surgery, alleviating pain, nausea, fatigue and emotional distress.  Hypnotherapy can help. “We encourage women to relax and then imagine themselves in a cool setting, walking safely down a cool or snowy path on a winter day, for example”.  

 During surgery, hypnotized women required 22% less analgesia and 34% less sedation. After surgery, they reported 53% less pain intensity, 46% less fatigue, 47% less discomfort, and 74% less emotional upset.  They also spent 11 fewer minutes in surgery, resulting in a cost savings of almost $800.00 per patient.

According to the Mayo Clinic, “The purpose of Hypnosis as a therapeutic technique is to help you understand and gain more control over your behavior, emotions or physical well-being”. If stress is a factor in your life, find a way to cut it down.  Stress produces acidity in the body also.

I suggest that you do some deep breathing in the morning and at night. A deep breath – which fills your entire gut and lungs and is exhaled slowly will put oxygen into the blood system, and disease cannot live long in oxygen, so we add as much oxygen as possible to the blood. You can do this throughout the day for even better oxygenation; just whenever you think about it. Chances are it will help reduce stress levels too.  If you can exercise, 20 minutes a day is very good to keep your system moving and eliminating the dead cells.  Fresh juicing is the best and easiest way to keep your system in alkaline too.

If you or someone you know has been diagnosed with cancer, contact me to find out how to learn hypnosis for stress reduction, pain management and to improve the overall quality of life through the stages of their treatment and wellness.

To Your Health!

Unload Stress Overload

September 15, 2013 10:03 am
posted by Liza Boubari

Unloading head junk may be the most important and lasting way to lower your daily stress load.

Head junk includes all the negative and constant draining thoughts, emotions, and beliefs you carry around in your head on a regular basis.  All the past doubts, harsh criticisms, and “could have”/“should haves”.  It is this undercurrent of troubling self-talk that keeps your worry, upset, discouragement, frustration, and self-directed anger perpetually bubbling just under the surface.

If you permit self-defeating, negative thoughts and feelings to build up, consciously or unconsciously, your mental distress storage will fill to the brim.  Then, when other annoyances, fears or threats arise, your storage overflows.  It is difficult to cope with much when you feel under the gun, stressed out, and overwhelmed. If your storage is always to this point then you may struggle with feeling depressed, anxious, angry or on constant edge in anticipation of another setback.

This is when the mind and body can shutdown, only to protect you.  The circuit breaker trips.

To take charge of your emotional state, let the negative feelings get reduced or eliminated, allowing everyday stressors to become easier to handle.  By reducing emotional and sensory overload, more energy and mental reserves are available to dream and go for what you want in life.  You become more resilient and better able to cope with challenging times. 

Perhaps the following metaphor provides another perspective.  Imagine  you are standing in an elevator and the buttons on the panel are stress buttons. What if you had total control over the buttons.  What if you decide one or more buttons leading to certain floors are out of order and no matter who or what were to push these buttons, it’ll make no difference.  It’s not coming on, thus, this elevator is not going there.  Simply, it makes no difference to you.  Just as if you are immune to the stressors until you, and only you, turn them back on. You take control of situations until you are ready to react or respond accordingly, and in a healthier way.   Become the operator of your own elevator!

It’s a wonderful feeling to confront face to face with someone or perceive something that once controlled you, triggering mental or physical distress, yet now you face it calmly with little or no reaction or effort. You have the power to progress, heal, and evolve!  With practice it becomes easier to control which “floors”  your elevator travels to.  People and circumstances that induced stress will become things of the past—distant memories.

These metaphors and techniques are lifetime tools that help you shift your thinking, release old patterns, and eliminate sources of mental drain, and to immediately upon implementation– HealWithin!

Love, Loss and Grief

June 30, 2013 11:04 am
posted by Liza Boubari

TobyTime to Embrace and say: Goodbye  

Love and Death are part of life and Grief is the natural response. Pets are family and when they pass it is extremely difficult! I find grief to ebb and flow – sometimes easier to endure than others, and my own experience to “embrace’ what is and to accept the cycle of life.

Days before the 3E event, I had to say goodbye to my little precious “Toby”. I am grateful that on 2-2-2002, he rescued and chose me to be his human mommy. From the first day we came home from the shelter, our family was bestowed with his paw, unconditional love, and uncanny protection. I have had other dogs and lost them before – but none had me from “the first hello”.  He was my ‘white shadow’.
 
At our healing center, he was cloned as the ‘official greeter’ – a therapist, without the professional credentials.  If you had visited our office, most likely you were greeted by Toby. 
 
He’d drift into hypnotic state of his own during hypnosis sessions and the moment I’d start counting up to five, bringing my clients to full awareness, he’d get up and stretch. During massage, often he’d start snoring until he’d hear me do my last chops on the client’s back, and slowly get up and walk to the door – knowing the session has come to an end. For so many, Toby was a therapy dog without the professional credentials!
 
Toby had a stroke on Easter Sunday and since then his health started declining, did not eat properly or could not hold his own. I found a way to place pads, changing him seven to eight times a day, only taking it off when I took him out for his walks. His legs started giving in, then vomiting, not holding food or water in. After all the tests, Toby developed mass of liquid in his body and lungs and that is why he could not keep food and water in. The vet would draw the liquid; he’d perk up for few days, then back to same. On his last day just two weeks ago, he looked at me with his loving eyes, started walking backwards, got sick and lay down moaning softly. I knew to save his dignity and free him of his pain, I had to do what was necessary and best for him.

So I held him in my arms while repeating what he had heard me say every single day… “Mommy loves Toby”. 
I talk to him in his absence, I grieve – I shed tears, but at no time did it hit home till I read this poem that I am to share with you. 

Blessings to all ‘animal lovers’
Liza

If It Should Be”

If it should be I grow frail and weak 
And pain prevents my peaceful sleep 
Then you must do what must be done 
When this last battle can’t be won 

You will be sad, I understand. 
Selfishness might stay your hand 
But on this day, more than the rest, 
Your love and friendship take the test. 

We’ve had so many happy years 
That what’s to come can hold no fears. 
You’d not want me to suffer. So, 
When the time comes, please let me go. 

Take me where my needs they’ll tend. 
Only-stay with me until the end. 
Hold me firm and speak to me. 
Until my eyes no longer see. 

I know, in time, you, too, will see 
It is a kindness that you do for me. 
Although my tail its last has waved, 
From pain and suffering I’ve been saved. 

Do not grieve it should be you. 
Who must decide this thing to do. 
We’ve been so close, we two, these years… 
Don’t let your heart hold any tears

Here is a shout out to the best animal hospital, team of doctors and staff. Montrose Animal Hospital, Montrose CA. **** 

After 11 years of going to the same vet, I was introduced to another veterinarian near my home, Montrose Animal Hosp. The difference of how they treat their furry clients, and us owners, was night and day.  Compassionate and caring!

 

 

 

Embrace Change

April 15, 2013 12:46 am
posted by Liza Boubari

We all need to do something we love, something that brings inner calm and nurtures our soul, something that allows us to embrace our bliss.  The hardest part of it is, making the time to do it. I now realize how much I enjoy the word “embrace”. It is a word you can never use in a negative way. Embrace your family, friends. Embrace the struggle, pain and disappointments. Embrace your heritage and femininity.  Embracing is something we need to do every day, and I don’t mean it for the sake of optimism. Embrace the times you feel upset. Don’t ever feel the need of flipping the mood around, rather, accept it. Accept who you are, accept where you are at. Embrace your body, your self – just as you are.

embrace lifeWhen you learn how to tap within, you manifest that which you desire much quicker. This info will change the course of your life.

All it takes is the courage to stand up and fight for what is in your heart, instead of letting life dictate to you that you will be what it wants you to be. There will always be things in our lives that we’ll have trouble letting go, but we must always remember that letting go doesn’t mean that our lives are over, letting go means that we can acquire new life, and that we are more ready than ever to conquer whatever may lay in our paths. 

Though many of us are very ready to grow up, mature and do the things that we dream about, it is important to grasp the concept that not everyone around you will be ready to go along with the changes you feel that you must make in your life. Some will want to stir you away, some due to their own misgivings or fears, others who truly have your best interest at heart but live their own life with fear.  Never let the people who aren’t ready for going the places that you are going stop you and eventually drag you back in a place they may want you to be happy.

I have compiled a list on “how to embrace and love yourself” for readers who are facing difficulty with knowing what to do in embracing themselves.  Become aware that you need to love yourself first, prior to developing any meaningful relationships with others.

Loving yourself feels unnatural for a start because your mind has been ingrained with self sabotaging thoughts for the longest time or you have been told being selfish is a bad thing.

However, nothing is going to happen if you do not make a conscious decision. And that includes attracting abundance. Learning to embrace your life and love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life.

“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”  Lucille Ball quotes 

When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.

So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, here are some ways which I believe can be helpful:

1.  Love  Yourself more. Think about what makes you – You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself despite all your “flaws”.

2. Eliminate Self Criticism. Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes? If you find that you often judge yourself, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

3. Be Kinder – Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the appreciation you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself- at least once a day!

4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It is not always about winning or coming up tops in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you have done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.

5. Let Go Of Worry.  Worry unrealistic negativity created by you, for you. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying.  It does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Change the word worry to having concern. Concern in more proactive.  Spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then surrender your outcome.  Pray Up!

To Your Health,

Liza

What’s your Color

March 12, 2013 12:53 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Did you know colors evoke certain emotions?  Have you noticed when you feel gloomy if you wear something brighter, you’ll feel a bit better and lights up your mood?

“He saw red.”  
“I’m feeling blue.”
“She was green with envy.”

colorsHow often have you heard these expressions? They’re actually fairly common. And they’re a good illustration of how color relates to our emotions.

Actually, color evokes a physical effect on the human body. It can influence the pituitary gland, which helps regulate hormone production. Hormones can affect our moods, so it makes sense that color would, too. But it can also be used to change our moods. How can you use colors to change your mood? Well, clothing is the most obvious choice. What you wear not only helps you feel a certain way, but also can give a strong impression about you to others – especially people you’ve never met.

  Below, we breakdown what each primary color makes you feel.

  • Red:   - Root – grounding.  Associated with Love, Heat, evokes Anger, Intensity, Excitement.  Red is used to increase circulation and stimulate the body and mind.
  • Orange: - Sexuality – Energetic, Warm color, evokes Enthusiasm and Excitement.  Orange is used to draw attention, as in traffic signs. 
  • Yellow: - Solar- Digestion.  Cheery, Warm, Core, Nature; but evokes Frustration and Anger.  Yellow increases metabolism.  Highly visible, attention grabber. 
  • Green: - Heart – Emotions.  Nature, Health, Healing, Good Luck, Tranquility, Jealousy; has been known to increase the ability to read, used in decorating to relieve stress and calm, color of fertility.
  • Blue:  Throat – Calm, Relaxed, Soothing; evokes Serenity, Sadness – Men Preferred, Research proven blue rooms make people more productive; least appetizing.   Blue can ease the suffering of illness and pain, also lower the pulse and body temperature.
  • Violet/Purple: - Third-eye.  Symbol of Wealth and Royalty, Spirituality and Wisdom.  Sometimes evokes: exotic, mysterious, above all.
  • White: - Crown – Innocence, Spacious, Purity, Sterile, Focus, isolation
  • Black may make some people think of depression, but it doesn’t have to. It’s a very dramatic color; many artists wear nothing but black. It can denote mystery, something hidden – or maybe an introvert who’s been around crowds too long could use it to “hide” from people. In this sense, it can be a very classy or protecting color.
  • Gray is a common color for business suits, and in those instances it can indicate independence, self-control, and self-confidence. But some color specialists think it’s also about ambiguity and indecision; after all, it isn’t black, and it isn’t white, either.

You don’t have to change everything about your appearance. Sometimes an accessory, like a tie or scarf, in a particular color will have the desired effect – without being too noticeable to others.   Many of my friends know I enjoy wearing scarf’s and Pashmina and have a vast collection in different designs and colors. I enjoy the feeling of comfort and coziness, as it  enhances the look of my wardrobe.   

You may also want to make changes to your surroundings. This doesn’t mean, though, that you have to replace all your wardrobe or furniture (unless you want to, of course!). Small changes like fresh flowers, decorations, pillows, or other throws placed on the furniture may just do the trick!

May you spring forward with bright and sunny colors!

To Your Health,

Liza

Attract Love

February 5, 2013 4:35 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Love and vulnerability affect us all.

This edition is about the month of love, sharing and passion. Whom we love, how we love and how we express our love — to God, family, partner, friends, and our pets. Love is such a beautiful feeling, yet often so hard to express.

The Chinese have a saying that each person chooses who their parents are to be and what life they want to experience long before conception, and it’s all erased from our memories the very moment of conception to allow us to fully experience life.

CoupleSunset2Are you ready to attract love?  Are you loved? Do you feel loved? Do you have someone special to share your life with, or do you feel lost and alone in the abyss of people surrounding you? Are you waiting for the perfect soul mate? Are you looking for the right person to love you and make you feel complete? 

You can attract the love you long for.  It’s just a matter of knowing what to do and how to do it.

If you really want to attract love, there is one question that you first need to ask.  Do you love yourself?  Do you really, truly love the person that you are? If you don’t love yourself, then it will be hard for others to love you. Once you love yourself, it will naturally be easier to attract the love you desire.

So how do you learn to love yourself and how do you go about attracting the love of others? You must awaken your love from within. Like a delicate flower waiting to bloom, your love is sealed up tight within a bud. With the right ingredients, that bud will bloom into a beautiful and magnificent creation.

Where do you find the ingredients for love? You cannot find them at the store. The key ingredients for loving yourself and attracting love are within you. That’s where hypnosis comes in.  The key is to do this naturally and sincerely! Whether expressing love for family or partner, let your energy flow to touch another’s heart in ways you’ve never imagined.

We are all made from the same divine energy. And we’re all here on the same journey – evolving to our highest potential.

To Your Health,
Liza

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New Year’s Resolutions

January 11, 2013 12:09 pm
posted by Liza Boubari


 HealWithin - New Year ResolutionsStop making Resolutions – Start creating Intentions!

Resolute = Resolve.  When resolutions you wish to come true are daunting because it seems like such hard work (ie: going to the gym 4x week for 90 days). Create action steps to make your intentions a reality, instead of just a resolution list you created for the New Year.

Nevertheless, many still find making resolutions to be a fruitful exercise: It’s a chance to take a high-level look at where your life is, compared to where you’d like it to be. It’s a day to sit down and ask hard questions about whether or not your actual priorities are in line with your current state priorities Even when you fall short of your own goals, you’ll find that coming close to those goals can be rewarding as well.

Here’s a New Year’s resolution anyone can do: Resolve not to make any more New Year’s resolutions.

Now, wasn’t that easy?  If you’re trying to pay down your credit cards, quit smoking, get a new job, find a mate, or shed some excess poundage, abandoning New Year’s resolutions won’t get you off the hook.

But by setting more realistic goals for yourself and not limiting yourself to a once-a-year, do-or-die, boot-camp style or all-out assault on those flabby thighs, or the hideous bathroom tiles you keep meaning to replace, you may find that the finish line isn’t so far away after all.

RELAX and guide it to happen!

This will take about 7-10 minutes.

Take this moment and sit back, place your left hand on your chest and your right hand over your stomach. Finding a moment of quietness. This is for you to visualize one (up to three) intentions you wish to bring forth in the next few weeks.  Become one with your vision.  What do you desire in this life?  What do you desire for yourself?  Now, give it a color, a feeling or even a sound.

Bring it close to you as if placing it on your body, on your chest and tummy.  Breath through it and let it linger upon your chest –  having it with you in the comfort of your cradle.  let yourself linger and stay with that image.  Imagine how it’ll feel being your desired body shape, working where you want to work, feeling healthier, being more in love hand in hand with your mater.   By now, you may hear your stomach making sounds of validation. So it is!

You can then stretch and go back to your daily routine!  Practice this guided visualization as often as you wish and let the rest come to you!

I look forward to hearing how your intentions are coming along!
To your health,

Liza

Ways to Stop Smoking

November 14, 2012 9:36 am
posted by Liza Boubari

STOP Smoking Forever with Hypnosis and Heal Within!

Cigarettes don’t kill you – You choose to put cigarettes in your mouth – no one forces you. You do have a choice.  Choose Health!

Did you know hookah smoking involves more nicotine than cigarette smoking because of the massive volume of smoke smokers inhale during hookah smoking?

• Most of the people think hookah smoking as a safer alternative to other forms of smoking because the hookah smoke is filtered through water before it is inhaled. But recent studies have found that smoking from a hookah is just as dangerous as smoking a cigarette.
• Lung cancer is currently responsible for 29% of cancer deaths in the United States, responsible for more deaths than breast cancer, colon cancer, and prostate cancer combined. Even though more women are diagnosed with breast cancer, and more men with prostate cancer, lung cancer remains the leading cause of cancer deaths for both men and women.
• Cigarette smoking is the major cause of lung cancer among women. About 90% of all lung cancer deaths among U.S. women smokers are attributable to smoking.

We are open to 4 billion bits of information moment by moment and we can only consciously process 2 thousand. So without our brain’s ability to filter information by deleting, distorting and generalizing, we would be overwhelmed.

At the end we choose what we believe we need and what would be useful for us. Apart from our belief system there are a number of other factors. Without intention to underestimate the others, we’ll focus on our belief system now. It plays the major role in the successful outcome of a hypnotherapy.

The saying: “We move towards our most dominant thought process. What we believe, is how we live.” can be applied to a hypnosis sessions as well.

The power of you being hypnotized lies with you, not the therapist. The therapist’s skills are important, but not as nearly as is your belief system. To be able to implement any change in our lives we need willpower. The conscious mind is where we have our willpower. However, our long established habits are controlled by our unconscious mind. Every habit has been programmed within you and some habits are difficult to consciously change, because it is no longer within the conscious awareness of how and when you do it.  It is being done without thinking about it.

What is it that you WANT as an outcome?

A change in your life is only possible if you really want it to happen! The therapist’s role is to support you and assist you in the process of the change. The level of your desire will determine how successful you are going to be.  It is that easy and simple!

All you need is to WANT it to happen, observe and acknowledge it to happen and we help make it happen!  Be the best you can be today!

There is a stop smoking seminar being offered by HealWithin!
Join our 3rd Annual “Free” Stop Smoking seminar on Nov 15, 2012 from 6:00-8:00 pm. at the Hilton Hotel Los Angeles North/Glendale.

Quitting can be hard, but does not have to. Remember, you were not born a smoker.  We provide resources and support that can increase your chances of STOP smoking successfully. All you need is the desire and making the choice to become healthier.

To Your Health
Liza

 

a Labor of Love – Aging parents

September 10, 2012 4:32 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Labor of Love for Aging parents: 7 warning signs of health problems

Watching an older parent become frail and disintegrate — becoming isolated and depressed — is among the most difficult stresses experienced by adult children today.  They don’t have to mind us or even listen – since they have always been the adult.

What prompted this discussion was witnessing many of my friends feeling anxious in dealing with the health of their parent and its effects on them both physically and mentally, plus the emotional factors.

I believe it’s honorable and right for adult children to convince their parents to try options that will make their lives safer, healthier and more pleasant. Nonetheless, no one can force parents to do anything against their will as long as they’re mentally competent.

So what do you do if you have a parent like this? Two simple words: Let go – pray!

In relations to eldercare, there’s only one person you can count on or control: you.  Once you’ve done as much as you can to help, you have to stop; there may be some things you can’t change.  Below is a list of 7 warning signs for you to become watchful and to prepare yourself.

1. Are your aging parents dressed appropriately?

Pay attention to your parents’ appearance. Are their clothes clean? Do they appear to be taking good care of themselves? Failure to keep up with daily routines — such as bathing, tooth brushing and other basic grooming — could indicate dementia, depression or physical impairments.

Also pay attention to your parents’ home. Are the lights working? Is the heat on? Are the bathrooms clean? Is the yard overgrown? Any big changes in the way your parents do things around the house could provide clues to their health. For example, scorched pots could mean your parents are forgetting about food cooking on the stove. Neglected housework could be a sign of depression, dementia or other concerns.

2. Are your aging parents experiencing memory loss?

Everyone forgets things from time to time. Modest memory problems are a fairly common part of aging, and sometimes medication side effects or underlying conditions contribute to memory loss. There’s a difference, though, between normal changes in memory and the type of memory loss associated with Alzheimer’s disease and other types of dementia. Consider your aging parents. Are memory changes limited to misplaced glasses or an occasionally forgotten appointment? Or are memory changes more concerning, such as forgetting common words when speaking, getting lost in familiar neighborhoods or being unable to follow directions? If you’re concerned about memory loss for either of your aging parents, schedule an evaluation with the doctor.

3. Are your aging parents safe in their home?

Take a look around your parents’ home, keeping an eye out for any red flags. Do your parents have difficulty navigating a narrow stairway? Has either parent fallen recently? Are they able to read directions on medication containers?

4. Are your aging parents safe on the road?

Driving can sometimes be challenging for older adults. If your aging parents become confused while driving or you’re concerned about their ability to drive safely, it might be time to stop driving. To help your aging parents maintain their independence, suggest other transportation options — such as taking the bus, using a van service, hiring a driver or taking advantage of other local transportation options.

5. Have your aging parents lost weight?

Losing weight without trying could be a sign that something’s wrong. For aging parents, weight loss could be related to many factors, including:

  • Difficulty cooking. Your parents could be having difficulty finding the energy to cook, grasping the tools necessary to cook, or reading labels or directions on food products.
  • Loss of taste or smell. Your parents might not be interested in eating if food doesn’t taste or smell as good as it used to.
  • Underlying conditions. Sometimes weight loss indicates a serious underlying condition, such as malnutrition, dementia, depression or cancer.

If you’re concerned about unexplained weight loss for either of your aging parents, schedule an evaluation with the doctor.

6. Are your aging parents in good spirits?

Note your parents’ moods and ask how they’re feeling. Are they sleeping well? A drastically different mood or outlook could be a sign of depression or other health concerns. Also talk to your parents about their activities. Are they connecting with friends? Have they maintained interest in hobbies and other daily activities? Are they involved in organizations or clubs?

If you’re concerned about your parents’ moods, schedule an evaluation. Depression can be treated at any age.

7. Are your aging parents able to get around?

Pay attention to how your parents are walking. Are they reluctant or unable to walk usual distances? Is knee or hip arthritis making it difficult to get around the house? Would either parent benefit from a cane or walker? Issues such as muscle weakness and joint pain can make it difficult to move around as well. If your parents are unsteady on their feet, they might be at risk of falling — a major cause of disability among older adults.

Taking action…

There are many steps you can take to ensure your aging parents’ health and well-being, even if you live far away.  Know one thing – Your relationship with your parents is as crucial to your health and wellbeing, as is theirs.  For example:

  • Share your concerns with your parents. Talk to your parents openly and honestly. Knowing that you’re concerned about their health might give your parents the motivation they need to see a doctor or make other changes. Consider including other people who care about your parents in the conversation, such as other loved ones, close friends or clergy.
  • Encourage regular medical checkups. If you’re worried about a parent’s weight loss, depressed mood, or other signs and symptoms, encourage your parent to schedule a doctor’s visit. You might offer to schedule the visit yourself or to accompany your parent to the doctor — or to find someone else to attend the visit. Ask about follow-up visits as well.
  • Address safety issues. Point out any potential safety issues to your parents — then make a plan to address the problems. For example, perhaps your parents could use assertive devices to help them reach items on high shelves or to help them stay steady on their feet. A higher toilet seat or handrails in the bathroom might help prevent falls.
  • Consider home care services. If your aging parents are having trouble taking care of themselves, perhaps you could hire someone to clean the house and run errands. A home health care aide could help your parents with daily activities such as bathing and dressing. You might also consider Meals on Wheels or other community services. If remaining at home is too challenging, you might suggest moving to an assisted living facility.
  • Contact the doctor for guidance. If your parents dismiss your concerns, consider contacting the doctor directly. Your insights can help the doctor understand what to look for during upcoming visits. Keep in mind that the doctor might need to verify that he or she has permission to speak with you about your parents’ care, which might include a signed form or waiver from your parents.
  • Seek help from local agencies. Your local agency on aging — which you can find using the Eldercare Locator, a public service of the Administration on Aging — can connect you with services in your parents’ area.   For example AARP or the county in which your parents live might have social workers who can evaluate your parents’ needs and put them in touch with pertinent services, such as home care workers and help with meals and transportation.   Other help may be the church or organization they have been part of all their life.

Sometimes aging parents won’t admit they need help, and others don’t realize they need help. That’s where you come in.  Labor of love is to remind your parents that you care about them and that you want to do what’s best to promote their health and well-being, both today and in the months and years to come.

We at Healwithin are here to help you and your loved ones through these transitions.  You may call us at 818 551-1501.

 

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