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Symbolism Part 3 – Being Armenian

April 20, 2015 6:01 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

What I know and can remember.

Grandparents 1925I grew up, from what I recall, in a very strict, yet very loving, diverse household.  My parents and grandparents spoke different languages with different dialects.  As a child I didn’t know the difference, yet like any child who learns to mimic their parents, I learned to shift from one dialect to another.

In a nutshell, my grandparents were born in Urfa where they were among those targeted in the first massacre against Armenians in August, 1915. More than thousands of families were killed and their children were taken by the Turkish soldiers.  After slaughtering her family, my grandmother, then only five years old, and her mother, soon joined other women and children who were forced to march for days with little food and relentless beatings.  Her mother could not withstand the brutal circumstances and eventually fell to the ground where she was kicked and left to die. My grandmother was then dragged over her mother’s body and taken with the rest.

After several Turkish homes my grandmother was placed in an orphanage by an American organization, ‘Near East Foundation‘  where, by the hundreds, they were sent to Beirut, and others to America, Canada or Europe.  My grandparents met in Beirut while she was being fostered in an American family’s home.  As foster children they were told they would be good together eventually marrying at the ages of fifteen and eighteen. They had three children in Beirut, decided to travel back home and were detoured to Iran, ending up in Tehran where my mother was born.

Years later my mother married my father, born and raised in Iran, with family migrating from Baku, Azerbaijan.   As I grew up I heard Armenian dialect combined with Persian/Farsi, which we call Persian-Armenian. A dialect from Beirut where my grandparents and uncles mostly spoke, and of course Farsi because of my father and uncles from his side of the family. Here is the tricky part; my grandmother spoke several languages fluently without any formal education, Armenian, Arabic, Turkish, French, Farsi, and English.  My grandparents and father would shift and speak Turkish or Arabic when they wanted to converse in secrecy.  It is common that people who are born in the Middle East or Europe speak at least two to three languages.

As an only child who was loved and adored by my parents and grandparents, there was no spoiling.  We knew there is a lot of love, yet there was also strict discipline and, yes, spanking . I was more of a Tomboy vs. a delicate girl, but I always understood the core of our heritage and what my grandmother had to endure in her life was not always happy and joyous.  She had a childlike tenderness about her, and with open-arms was always caring and helpful. Some of my most cherished memories of her are when she played the piano (self taught), sang and read as if she was a scholar.  She read the entire Bible five times and knew more about world history than many educators.  She hired someone to teach her how to drive when we came to the US.  She had no problem speaking her mind in a courtroom explaining to the judge why the err was with the police, and got away with her explanations and charm!  She wrote a letter to Bill Clinton (The White House) congratulating him for his presidency, and on his second reelection, she wrote another letter congratulating him again, also to request that he as the leader of the free world, recognize the Armenian Genocide. To the families amazement, both times, she received a response from the White House!  She did not delve in fear, but lived with courage.  Our family and friends knew her as Mrs. Roza, a woman of substance.

She taught me discipline and endurance, perhaps that is why I am so tenacious.  She emphasized the importance of having faith in God and spirituality, knowing my self-worth, learning to stand strong on my two feet, and making a difference in my world and of others.  I know I am following and expanding her passion for helping, empowering, inspiring and leading, always remembering to live life with purpose, because we each matter.  I am honored and proud to come from a blood line of strong women who survive, stand strong, have compassion and care about others. Yet they have always remained loving, never losing their femininity and their belief in the higher power and God. I was born in Tehran, to what I consider an Armenian family as Armenian was the predominant language spoken and at home. I was Christened Catholic, attended Catholic school until our family immigrated to the US in 1974, and been a proud American since 1978.

The Armenian Genocide:

This year, the 24th of April marks the hundred year anniversary of the Armenian Genocide. Millions of Armenians from all over the world will light a candle, pray, stand up or march in memory of those who perished during 1915-1918.  I will also light a candle, pray and unit with my community at our local church honoring my grandparents and their parents and families.

After an entire century, Pope Francis has recognized the Armenian Genocide as the First Genocide of the Century.  Celebrities such as Kim Kardashian and Kanye West, have brought much attention as they recently traveled to Armenia.  Humanitarian George Clooney and his wife, Amal, and many others are traveling to show solidarity and bring recognition to what Armenians around the world have been waiting for, to have this atrocity recognized as Armenian Genocide Memorial Park2genocide against the Armenians.

Just this week hundreds gathered in Pasadena for the unveiling of this significant monument honoring our heritage, people, and culture and found the balance in living here as a proud Americans!  Today we remember, as of today, we begin Living Purposefully.

A drop of water falls every 21 seconds from the top of the memorial. In a year these “teardrops” represent the 1.5 million Armenians killed.   Each drop into a basin adorned with the ancient Armenian symbol for ‘eternity’ – designed by Catherine Menard.

Facts:

During World War I, the Young Turks political reform movement moved to eliminate the Armenian people from the Ottoman Empire.
Of the 2 million total Armenians, 1.5 million were killed.
The Armenian people were tortured, massacred, and starved.  Many were forcibly removed from Armenia and Anatolia to Syria and surrounding countries.
The Armenian Genocide took place from 1915 to 1918, with renewed instances of brutality occurring between 1920 and 1923.
By 1923, the Armenian population had been completely eliminated from Asia Minor and historic West Armenia.
April 24 is commemorated as the date of the beginning of the Armenian Genocide.
The genocide started when 300 Armenian leaders, writers, thinkers, and professionals in Constantinople (present-day Istanbul) were collected, deported, and killed. 5,000 of the poorest Armenians were also slaughtered in their homes and the streets.
The United Nations Convention on the Prevention and Punishment of the Crime of Genocide was adopted in 1948, 30 years after the Armenian Genocide.
Most Armenians in the US are children and grandchildren of survivors.
The Young Turk government restricted the use of photography and reporting, but many American missionaries and diplomatic representatives witnessed the deportations and broke the news outside of the country.

More links about the Armenian Genocide – and upcoming events.

http://www.history.com/topics/armenian-genocide

http://www.pasadenastarnews.com/general-news/20150418/pasadena-armenian-genocide-memorial-a-powerful-tribute-to-victims

http://www.nytimes.com/ref/timestopics/topics_armeniangenocide.html

http://hammer.ucla.edu/i-am-armenian/?gclid=CJWzrMjQ-8QCFdgZgQodxEwA-g

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/luna-atamian-/president-obama-and-the-recognition-of-the-armenian-genocide_b_7066590.html

Symbolism-Part 2, ‘Easter’

April 3, 2015 9:27 am
posted by Liza Boubari

Spring- Symbolism Part 2

Easter – Life and Fertility

As a child growing up in a home with some rituals and traditions, yet not strict in religion gave me a sense of belonging, and freedom with safety.  Weeks before Easter, my grandmother would start preparation for a week long family gatherings. Huge basket filled with colored eggs, baking her traditional ‘Kahka’ (form of cookie) and hours of making ‘Kouftah’  (traditional Lebanese food) with one ‘silver coin’ hidden in one – for good luck!

Today, the meaning of the many different customs observed during Easter Sunday have been buried with time. In one way or another all the customs are a “salute to spring” marking re-birth. The white Easter lily has come to capture the glory of the holiday. Some say the word Easter is derived from Eostre (also known as Ostara), an ancient Anglo-Saxon Goddess. She symbolized the rebirth of the day at dawn and the rebirth of life in the spring. A festival was held in her honor every year at the vernal equinox. People celebrate Easter according to their beliefs and their religious denominations. Christians commemorate Good Friday as the day that Jesus Christ died and Easter Sunday as the day that He was resurrected.

Easter eggs.

Today on Easter Sunday, many children and some adults (rituals) hunt for the decorated eggs hidden by the Easter Bunny.  Neighborhoods and organizations hold Easter egg hunts, and the child who finds the most eggs wins a prize. The Easter Bunny is a rabbit-spirit. Long ago, he was called the “Easter Hare”, hares and rabbits have frequent multiple births so they became a symbol of fertility. The custom of an Easter egg hunt began because children believed that hares laid eggs in the grass. The Romans believed that “All life comes from an egg.” Christians consider eggs to be “the seed of life” and so they are symbolic of the resurrection of Jesus Christ. Why we dye, or color, and decorate eggs is not certain. In medieval Europe, beautifully decorated eggs were given as gifts.

We now know that many of our patterns, behaviors and habits are formed due to our past, family history – foods we ate or songs we sang. They are ingrained into our subconscious mind, where they are held intact for recall (the good ones, as well as the not so good ones).  How and what we keep, modify or change, is very much a conscious choice! May You celebrate all that you are!

Live Prosperously – You matter

Liza

Post #3 of Symbols and Renewal: the Armenian Genocide – 100 years ago

Spring and Symbolisim

March 20, 2015 9:25 am
posted by Liza Boubari

UnitySpring – Symbolizing Renewal and Unity

Many things in our lives that are different yet convey the same.  If we just look at things on the surface, they are different, yet if we go beyond what is, the symbolism or its hidden meanings, only then we realize how much of it is of the same root cause (we as ONE – unity).  We as humans move towards our most dominant thought pattern, thus much of what we do, are rituals and habits.  We act consciously, yet it is our subconscious mind reacts to what we have learned and has been ingrained in us (the emotional connection to things). In the next few weeks we will come across significant dates of celebration.  In the coming weeks, I will blog on each topic (3).

Today being first day of Spring, millions celebrate the Persian New Year (NowRooz). Celebrated not only by all descendants of Iran-Persians, also by many Armenians born in Iran… not because we are Muslim, but its symbolism and what we call, habits and ritual.

Two weeks after, Easter is upon us. Were on Easter Sunday, millions of Christians celebrate the resurrection of the Lord, Jesus Christ.   A New Year – A New Birth.

Few weeks after, Armenians around the world will celebrate/commemorating to recognize the Armenian Genocide.

Each one is about renewal, recognition, rituals, and tradition.  Created by us, for us-that no matter where and who we are, we as humans strive to live together in unity and in peace. To Live Purposefully is to look beyond what is. To acknowledge, to accept, to renew and to honor humanity as a whole.  Let us rise above what we see on the surface and vow to be a better human and celebrate our differences that set us apart, yet were established to unit us all.

Live Purposefully-YOU MATTER
Liza

Haft-Seen- NovRoozToday’s topic “Haft Seen” – and we say Happy Nowrooz!

The Persian New Year, Nowrooz (Nowruz)coincides with the Spring Equinox. The new year begins, and feels like a beginning as the transition from winter into spring is seen in nature and felt in humans and animals, and in the air!  Haft Seen, otherwise known as the seven seen is a traditional table setting of Nowrooz, the traditional Persian new year. The haft seen table includes seven items all starting with the letter S (س) in the Persian alphabet.  The Haft Seen items are:

  1. Sabzeh – (Persian: سبزه‎)-wheat, barley or lentil sprouts growing in a dish – symbolizing rebirth
  2. Samanu – (Persian: سمنو‎)-sweet pudding made from wheat germ – symbolizing affluence
  3. Senjed – (Persian: سنجد‎)-dried oleaster Wild Olive fruit – symbolizing love
  4. Sir – (Persian: سیر‎)- garlic – symbolizing medicine
  5. Sib – (Persian: سیب‎)- apples – symbolizing beauty and health(Earth)
  6. Somāq – (Persian: سماق‎)sumac fruit – symbolizing (the color of) sunrise
  7. Serkeh – (Persian: سرکه‎) – vinegar – symbolizing age and patience

The above items are surrounded with more, bringing forth more love, nurturing, and a prosperous year.

  1. Sekkeh – (Coin)- symbolizing Wealth and prosperity
  2. Sonbol (Hyacinth)- symbolizing Blossom and renewal
  3. Shirini (sweet)- symbolizing spreading of Sweetness
  4. Sham (candle) – symbolizing living with light, Lightness
  5. Aieneh (mirror) – symbolizing Reflection and Beauty
  6. Golab – (rose water)- symbolizing Digestion and Cleansing
  7. Goldfish – symbolizing Peace and Fortune
  8. Tokhmemorgh (eggs) – symbolizing growth and Fertility

March Madness

March 9, 2015 12:48 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

March Parade

The word ‘March’ brings forth images of marching – like soldiers who march on. ‘Madness’ in itself creates a negative feeling which is associated with being mad or a sense of confusion.  So why do we march on to madness?

I am certain you have heard that negative advertising is still advertising.  Certain words impact in deeper levels of your subconscious mind and create a feeling that advertisers want you to feel.

So – let us create new and better feelings to associate with the same words.

From this day on, let us ‘March Forward’. Each and every time you see the word March- you will automatically think of something like the USC Trojan’s Band marching down the rose parade powerfully playing America the Beautiful… From here you envision what a marching band looks and sounds like. If you have ever played an instrument, you can even hear the sound in your mind.  You may very well be familiar with America the Beautiful and you begin to hum the tune or even sing the words. The moment you hear it you smile, as it may bring you memories of singing it in unison with your elementary school peers.

The word ‘Madness’, often used as being madly in love or to express that sense of inner joy and happy thoughts – the insanely good feeling.

By using the same two words we give them more of a positive spin. Words that may have once had a negative impact now have more of pleasant connection. Your subconscious mind has now created a new image and feeling associated with what was.  Thus – March Madness feels as if you are now ready to march forward to something you love and that can bring you utter joy~

Words are powerful – but more importantly it is YOU that has the power within to shift what is no longer necessary or worthy of you, to something beneficial and beautiful- making you feel good about yourself and the life you want to create.

Lets March Forward towards the beginning of Spring where all things come to bloom and flourish – even your life and career!

Live Purposefully – You Matter.

Hypnosis, Imagination and Love

February 14, 2015 11:00 am
posted by Liza Boubari

Imagine creating a Valentine’s Day that is not only loving and lustful, but sensual, exciting and memorable.

Valentine FlameThere are so many ways you can spend your Valentine’s day – being with your lover, partner, husband and if single, with a friend. It’s about loving and receiving love, being confident and comfortable with your own body and self. This alone can be the biggest ‘turn on’. You know feelings you have with or towards your partner vary all the time. You also know, that if and when you choose, that you can ignite any love relationship when there is flame.

Let’s take a moment and imagine …. imagine in your mind your partner bringing you a dozen roses , perhaps your favorite perfume or jewelry… then as he showers you with passionate kisses, you become aware of Enigma playing in the background.  Perhaps moments later in a more comfortable setting, gently holding you and blind folding you.  Now your mind starts going to all places as to what is to happen next.  Asking you to part your lips, having melted chocolate smeared all around your lips – then the taste of strawberries as you are being fed one at a time… and moments later asking you to swallow and as you do, your palate tingles as you take a sip of the bubbly Cristal Champagne.  Hummm – can you hear the music, even the fizzle of the faint bubbles.  How about the taste of strawberries at the tip of your tongue and the smell of roses.  Become aware of how your skin would feel of the silky eye patch covering your eyes.  Have I awakened you to your imagination and senses yet?!

You see – the way to savor all this is to allow yourself to be in the moment. To open your inner mind, awaken your senses to feel and enjoy your own feelings and how your body responds. Let go and be in the moment to what your heart and senses feel.

Let go of judgment or what is happening in the kitchen, the kids, the noise next door or worse – what you are going to do or say afterwards. Feeling loved is how you feel loved and how you respond.  This is not about your partner but the loving way your partner can help you feel loved. These words and images may now be embedded in your mind for a long time… perhaps for hours or throughout the day.

When you choose honesty, loving, vulnerability and openness, while respecting yourself and the person you are with – passionate and loving feelings will percolate from the inside out. Not only will it not evaporate – but can be playful and melt yours and your partners heart, igniting the loving flame that will keep the two of you warm for much longer time. Do you now realize how powerful your mind and imagination can be? Hypnosis and guided visualization can help you create, or help you overcome and let go of feelings, habits or behavior you no longer wish to keep. What the conscious mind can perceive – the subconscious mind can conceive.  What you need more than any shade of gray, is clarity for what you have within!

My grandmother would say: “If you keep the flame in the bedroom lit, it’ll light up the entire house”. May your Valentine’s day or night, be as romantic and memorable you wish it to be.  ~ Liza

Creating New Year’s Intention vs. Resolution

January 12, 2015 4:25 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Depending on how you define ‘success’, you could ‘succeed’ while NOT following these basic principles – but if your definition of success is living in the healthiest being possible, here are some tips that are a must.

Create a mindset to achieve your ideal weight.

Resolutions don’t necessarily work – why? Because more often than not things are not resolved. Instead, SET INTENTIONS and watch things happen!  When you intend to do something, your mind automatically sets in gear to make it happen – where it cannot always resolve.

It has been said a million times before, but it’s worth saying again. There is no supplement, gadget, diet, therapy, or fitness trend that is going to change your life – that job is yours and yours alone.

Have you noticed how so many fall into the pitfall of yo-yoing in their weight. Train hard, eat right, lose weight and a year or few months down the road slowly gain the weight back?  What you may not realize is that the body is like a machine. It will do as you train it, yet if the mindset and your inner dialogue is not in sync with your body training, your inner voice will always win. The reason is simple. The subconscious mind is more powerful than the conscious thinking mind.

Hypnosis Weight LossBelieve me when I say I have been there – done that.  For starters, get OFF the scale for a while.  The scale is your biggest judger.  Stop allowing those numbers judge You.  Stop having your day be set or ruined by what the numbers show.

We live in a ‘now’ society who want what we want, and we want it immediately. This has lead to a concerning fitness trend of satisfaction through exhaustion. If the body is training to be in shape and to look perfect but the mind and heart think it’s not good enough – or you hit a plateau, that means there is a missing connection between the mind and the body.  To achieve your total wellness, you must tap within and change the internal dialogue.

Hypnotherapy delves deep into the root cause of your thinking, feeling, and craving mind. Through hypnosis you can change negative, self-sabotaging and self-defeating thoughts and feelings to work in your best interest, plus help you move forward in total mind-body harmony and balance.

Even “The Biggest Loser” has a therapist (behind the scenes) that works with the contestants’ mental and emotional setting. They use guided visualization and mind-body imagery to overcome pain, endure challenges and heal faster, crave healthier food, and of course, drop weight and gain the mind set to win!

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”  ― Winston S. Churchill

  • Start your mind-body journey now
  • Make You as a whole the priority
  • Don’t seek health – create it
  • Move forward with intention
  • Visualize to actualize

Close your eyes. Imagine your food cravings floating away. Imagine a day of eating only what’s good for you. Imagine your body taking form to the exact shape you want it to.  Imagine how your favorite attire is forming on your body and how good you feel in it. Imagine hypnosis actually helping you drop weight—because the news is: It does.

Committing to a program, ANY program for at least 6 months to a 1 year is the only way to see true change in You. Move daily, eat the best you can when you can, retrain your mindset, and commit to a lifestyle change, not a trend.

To schedule your appointment and to use the powers of hypnosis for your total mind-body training and wellness. Contact us Today – info@healwithin.com  or call 818 551-1501

Live Purposefully – You Matter
Liza

Women’s Cycle and Smoking

January 7, 2015 12:08 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Women's Cycle-Smoking

Have you ever felt as if…

  • you are ready to pull your hair?
  • you feel the urge to smoke one cigarette after another, yet you can’t stand the stinky smell?
  • you suddenly wake up in the middle of the night, go light up a cigarette, take a puff and put it out only to realize you had not smoked over three weeks?

Well, there may be a good reason for your madness. Did you know a woman’s menstrual cycle could play a role in determining how easy (or difficult) it is for a woman to stop smoking?   If you have thought of stop smoking as your New Year’s resolution, then perhaps you might benefit from checking your ovulation calendars. That may be because declines in levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone boost nicotine withdrawal symptoms and also boost the activity of brain circuits associated with craving.

“Taking the menstrual cycle into consideration could help women to stop smoking easier.”

During a woman’s follicular phase (after one’s period but before ovulation), seeing cigarette and smoking imagery greatly activates at least five different centers of the brain, indicating higher cravings. But during a woman’s luteal phase, only one center of the brain responds with limited activation. That makes sense.   “Craving for nicotine is strongest during periods.”

Studies reveal that uncontrollable urges to smoke are stronger at the beginning phase that begins after menstruation.  Hormonal decreases of estrogen and progesterone possibly deepen the withdrawal syndrome and increase activity of neural circuits associated with craving.  It’s been proven that Hypnosis can help ease menstrual pain and cramps, balance hormonal cycle, and help one Stop Smoking. 

Here are some facts:

  • Women and girls have bought into the myth that they gain more weight after quitting smoking, so they continue smoking for weight control.
  • Women and girls tend to smoke as a “buffer” against negative feelings, while men smoke more from habit or to enhance positive sensations.
  • Most women express emotional dependency to tobacco in the midst of life difficulties and when “very unhappy”.
  • Female addiction may be reinforced more by the sensory and social context of smoking, rather than by nicotine, suggesting that patches may not be so effective an aid.
  • Women quit less easily than men due to their different responses to nicotine as well as a lack of social support, fear of weight gain, depression and hormones.
  • Hormonal imbalance and monthly cycles attribute to the success of quitting.

To book your session to Stop Smoking Today – contact:  info@healwithin

10 Tips for Living Happier

December 2, 2014 10:03 am
posted by Liza Boubari

Being Happy,HWDid you know that being HAPPY adds nine years to your life?

Your inner mind loves to learn and integrate new ideas, finding solutions to erase and transform old patterns into new. Creating healthier and empowering habits and rituals, bring forth desires you intend to make both internally, and externally.

When thinking positive and loving thoughts, your energy and focus will be drawn to the positive, and loving, and you will focus more on the positives which further enables you to stay in a relaxed state. By staying in a relaxed and tension free state as much as possible, your body will promote further health and overall well-being.

Here are 10 Tips to living healthier and happier in the new year!

  1. Create a ritual: Write down your to do list and check off three essential to do each day;
  2. Make a list of things that you love to do, and post the list on your bathroom mirror;
  3. Consciously surround yourself with supportive and positive people you like who inspire you and you enjoy being around;
  4. Praise and reward yourself and your loved ones more often;
  5. Speak in ‘the now’ – as if it is happening.  “I am thinner”
  6. Take a break and relax;
  7. Let go of self criticism and petty stuff;
  8. Use empowering words such as: Good, Exciting, Joy, Success, and I love You
  9. Hug more – let someone you care for know they mean so much to you
  10. Do your best to Live Lovingly and Purposefully.

You can also create your own list of all the things you want for the new year. What you intend to do, feel, create, and achieve. Change your words and it’ll shift your thoughts. And when you shift your thoughts, you can change your life.

Imagine your goal as if you’ve reached it. How does it look?  How does it feel? Now, hold that feeling for a couple of seconds or minutes. Feels great right? It is inspiring knowing that you can actually see within your mind of the goal reached.

Send me a message and share your thoughts. Would love to hear back from you!

May all your Wishes and Dreams become reality –

Live Purposefully,
Liza

Gratitude -Thankful Meditation

November 3, 2014 1:01 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Gratitude- HWGrateful or Gratitude Mediation. This form of meditation allows your body to settle into a state of profound rest and relaxation and your mind to achieve a state of inner peace, and joy.

Quiet time slows our mind, calms our spirit, and centers our soul. It removes our mind from clutter and outside hassle, that surrounds us and centers us on something greater and more fulfilling. It provides opportunity to identify our desires, articulate our values, and align our pursuits accordingly. In quiet and solitude, our mind gravitates towards the more important things—the most valuable. We naturally focus on our souls, our families, our friends, our health, our significance, and our greatest ambitions.

You can do this by carving out some time for yourself. Sit back (back supported with a pillow), uncross your legs and fingers, gently close your eyes -(we see more with our eyes closed). Become aware of your breath, sounds, smells… feel a sense of calmness within. You are safe.

Now allow your mind to wonder and imagine as if you are watching a movie “This is your life”. Go back in time. Imagine seeing the time line of all your actions, reactions, feelings, thoughts and experiences.

Become more aware and grateful for living through them. Simply acknowledge as to what was, be present for what is today.  Now you can choose to make changes for the better. Project what you desire in your life – how you want to feel.  Immerse yourself in how this new image will make you feel better, stronger, healthier, happier, successful, and etc.  Stay with the feeling – Breathe through it – Own it.

If you do this for several minutes a week, you will find that your celebration of You is richer and fuller than you have imagined it could be. In fact, you might just discover that your overall happiness with life improves. A true Thanks Giving.

Living Purposefully

Liza

Are you truly happy? : 9 Tips in Life that Lead to Happiness

September 12, 2014 2:59 pm
posted by Liza Boubari

Reflect and Accept at HealWithin

In memory of Robin Williams and the loss of a distant relative in the same manner, I am dedicating this segment of the newsletter in their memory.  Some folks seem so happy from the outside, yet the true inner struggles they face day in-day out, go unseen.

Let me shed some light on this and help you with what so many desire, yet don’t know how to feel:  Happiness and Joy.

Are you happy? Do you feel happy? Do you even know what it means to be happy and what it takes to achieve happiness? These are important questions for anyone who is seeking happiness to ask themselves. The problem is that in our quest to happiness, we often forget to be happy now. As we strive to achieve our goals, we postpone happiness…for later. Some even hold back showing their happiness because a family member or friend close to them is not happy.

We somehow think that even though all we want is to be happy, it’s ok not to be happy now. As if happiness is a faraway destination that you hope to visit someday, rather than a feeling, an emotion you can call to the surface if you truly desire it.

I live my life to maintain my own happiness while doing my best to not cause unhappiness to anyone else. If you want to be happy you need to understand that you can be happy, right now and always. You must also understand that you must be happy. Many people make the mistake of believing that they don’t deserve happiness and accept their unhappy state as their destiny. The truth of the matter is that happiness, like anything else in life, needs to be nurtured.

Being kind is also a habit that consistently makes people happier. Research has found that performing acts of kindness once a week leads to the most happiness.

The following are a few tips that I follow to create happiness in my life. You can apply it right away, and you don’t need to wait until you graduate, move into the new house, get your dream job, or find the love of your life to feel that happiness boost.

    1. You were not born to make someone else happy.
    2. Understand what it is that will make you happy. Everyone has unique requirements for attaining happiness and what makes one person happy may be very different from what makes someone else happy. Revel in your individuality and do not worry about whether or not your desires are comparable to those of your peers. 
    3. Make a plan for attaining goals that you believe will make you happy. Your mood will very likely increase as your pursue your goal because you will feel better about yourself for going after something you value.
    4. Surround yourself with happy people. It is easy to begin to think negatively when you are surrounded by people who think that way. Conversely, if you are around people who are happy their emotional state will be infectious.
    5. When something goes wrong, figure out a solution instead of wallowing in self pity. Truly happy people don’t allow setbacks to affect their mood because they know that with a little thought they can turn the circumstances back to their favor.
    6. Spend a few minutes each day thinking about the things that make you happy. It’s also important to take some time each day to do something nice for yourself. Whether you treat yourself to lunch, take a long, relaxing bath or simply spend a few extra minutes on your appearance you will be subconsciously putting yourself in a better mood.
    7. Finding the humor in situations can also lead to happiness. While there are times that require you to be serious, when it is appropriate, find a way to make light of a situation that would otherwise make you unhappy.
    8. Maintaining your health is another way to achieve happiness. Being overweight or not eating nutritious foods can have a negative effect on your mood. Additionally, exercise has been known to release endorphin’s that give you a feeling of happiness.
    9. Finally, it is important to understand that you deserve happiness. Those who believe that they are not worthy of happiness may subconsciously sabotage their efforts to achieve happiness. If necessary, tell yourself each day that you deserve to be happy and remind yourself what steps you will take to achieve the happiness you desire.

Happiness is hard to define but most people are aware of whether they are happy or not. Many people believe that happiness is a form of luck and that some people are destined to be happy while others are destined to be unhappy. The tips in this segment are small but meaningful steps that you can take each day to lead you to true happiness.

Live purposefully and happily,

Liza

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208 S. Louise Street
Glendale, CA 91205

Phone: (818) 551-1501
E-mail: info@healwithin.com
Individual Sessions - Group Workshops - Speaking Engagements - Hypno-Massage


The nature of the services provided are hypnosis, NLP, and Time Line Therapy™. These services are not licensed by the state. These services are non-diagnostic and are complementary to the healing arts services that are licensed by the state of California. These services do not include the practice of medicine or psychology or any other licensed healing art, Liza is not a licensed physician.