Happiness is a choice. Most folk are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
- Abraham Lincoln
I was discussing what Happiness is with a friend and I said: Happiness is when one person is doing what they enjoy and is grateful for what they have and who they are. Happiness is perception; it’s subjective and means so many things to different people. When clients hoping to lose weight come to HealWithin, they’ll often claim that they “will be happy if [I] lose 10 lbs”. But loss does not create happiness; it is the gain of something that might help us achieve happiness. The reward, the self-pride that drives us to succeed and transform. Loss is negative – so when seeking loss, we never gain. When defining what will make you happy, focus on what you stand to gain, not what you want to lose.
When we are happy, we are vibrating at a high frequency, energetically speaking, hence the expression “good vibes.” When we are sad our vibration is low. Whatever your experience in any given moment, there are always choices available which lead to an increase in vibration, and therefore happiness.
Happiness is a choice… what have you chosen?
Physically, when we are properly balanced, the heart circulates oxygen rich blood throughout the body, and assures proper assimilation in the beginning stages of digestion in the small intestine. Mental acuity is associated with the heart, therefore, memory, thought processes, emotional well being, and consciousness are also attributed to the heart and feelings.
When the heart is balanced, the mind is calm and you sleep deeply and wake rested. Emotionally, because the heart is connected to your spirit, summer is the best time to heal emotional wounds that you have carried from your past. Hypnotherapy can help you refill love, joy, and happiness and ensure that you not carry your old hurts and patterns with you into the future.
Here are some tips to help you make the most of the summer season:
- Drink plenty of water and other fluids
- Wake up earlier in the morning
- Rest at midday
- Refrain from anger; keep calm and even-tempered (anger causes and exacerbates heat!)
Summer is about abundance and this is definitely the case with foods. Fruits and vegetables abound in summer and we are lucky to have a multitude of choice when it comes to what we eat. It is important to stay cool and hydrated. There are many foods that are beneficial to eat during this season. Here is a list of foods that are beneficial to eat in the summer months:
Live in harmony with nature and one’s environment. With these basic principles of eating with awareness, you can stay healthy, strengthen your body, mind and spirit – and live long, happy, and healthy life.
Defining Health Diseases #1 – the American Syndrome
For a nation of immigrants, the culture of the United States is remarkably uniform in its habits and attitudes. The combination of stress and stagnation, is the result of excess worry, hurry, and too much food, which is now being called the American Syndrome.
All forms of neurosis and neurosis-related disorders, are at high levels and rising in the United States. Chronic fear, worry, anxiety, stress, insecurity, guilt, obsessive thinking, all are optional negative thought patterns – behavioral choices – that create health disease. Even the word stress is a stressor for so many. American culture promotes the desire to control everything, including the uncontrollable, especially the past, the future, and the actions and opinions of other people.
- The use of prescribed anti-depressants in the U.S. is extremely popular and continues to increase. With 5% of the world’s population, Americans consume 65% of all psychotropic drugs.
- The use of illicit drugs and alcohol for the purpose of misery-control continues its upward path, in spite of the U.S. government’s decades-long “War on Drugs” and high number of incarcerated drug offenders.
- The use of food as an emotional sedative, especially among politically and economically disadvantaged groups, is widespread in obesity-plagued America, and still growing.
- The U.S. is always a nation at war – the War on Drugs, the War on Terrorism, the War on Cancer, the War on Iran, Cuba, N. Korea, and so many others.
Fear-generated issues reveal itself physically as a conscious and in most cases unconscious tightening or a constricting of muscles – held tight for long periods of time – as part of a fight or flight response to a perceived emergency. Literally any organ or tissue can become strangled and diseased in this manner. The resulting decrease in circulation in the body/mind impedes and halts the functioning of the cardiac muscle and lungs, allows growths and tumors to form and grow, constrains the uterus and causes all sorts of menstrual and fertility problems, menopausal abnormalities, constricts the reproductive and urinary organs and reduces their function, and tightens the digestive organs leading to a multitude of digestive diseases.
Fear contracts structural muscles, thereby causing mysterious pains, forcing dislocations of bones, and preventing the healing of injuries. All of the foregoing health problems are quite common in most medical clinics.
Psychosomatic illnesses, those that are heavily fear-based and that respond well to faith healing, alternative healing and other placebo treatments, are commonly found in America and are on the increase. Some everyday examples are fibromyalgia, irritable bowel syndrome, digestive ulcers, chronic fatigue syndrome, common hypoglycemia, Crohn’s disease, post-traumatic stress disorder, stress headaches, bronchial asthma, sexual impotence, urinary retention or incontinence, pre-menstrual syndrome, and high blood pressure.
Did you know FEAR means nothing more than False Emotions Appearing Real, yet we seem to live in a world surrounded by and with fear. Fear of being attacked, fear of loss of job, fear of not finding love, fear of disease. Are we becoming a nation of fearfulness?
According to Andrew Weil, the author of many popular books on health, including Healthy Aging, “In recent years, scientists have begun to recognize that misplaced, unnecessary, and prolonged inflammation may be a common root of many chronic, degenerative diseases that until now have appeared to have nothing in common.
To reduce fear and stress effecting health diseases and more on this topic… stay tuned to our next segment and Discover the five essential elements of well-being to become healthier and flourish in your life.
To Your Health,
Planning on getting married? Congratulations! This is one of the most exciting times in a woman’s life. From the moment you say “Yes” you begin creating a string of excitement and energy around yourself and those around you.
Weddings bring with them good stresses and bad stresses. You can be excited to commit yourself to the person you love and be surrounded by your family and friends. But there are other aspects—staying within a budget, cooperating with your partner, deciding on venues and guest lists, trying to keep everyone happy, eating healthy, etc.—that can make brides feel confused, anxious, and depressed.
There may be days where you feel frustrated and are ready to pull your hair and scream, not knowing exactly why – sound familiar?
Did you know that your reality is created by your beliefs?
- The first step is becoming aware of what are your core beliefs about love and marriage.
- The second step is to make a conscious commitment to stay true to your-self, then others.
- The third step is to find a modality that works for you which is loving and safe.
Brides need help with anxiety and controlling tendencies so that they can fully embrace their “Big Day.” You need to know that although your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event, perfection is not key. Mindfulness is. The key to having a great wedding is being fully present to enjoy the day – not being consumed by the little details that most people will overlook.
- Natural weight loss through controlling anxiety and tension, emphasizing a sound diet and exercise.
- Improve communication with their fiancees, family members and vendors during this stressful time
- Improve self-esteem and confidence; reinforce that they are loved and cherished (why else would they be getting married)
- Overcome fears and concerns about their relationship and how it will change upon marriage
Weddings can be stressful, stress leads to fighting, and fighting leads to doubts, fear, and worry. If this describes your relationship, rest assured that you are not alone. There are many couples who worry that fighting means they are not right for each other. Certainly, this is something to consider if the fights are about major issues such as children, religious beliefs, finances, and where to live.
Wedding jitters can easily be wiped away as long as you remember to keep your love and faith close to your heart. One word of advice…make sure the person you are marrying enhances who you are and that through this unity, you enhance each others’ lives.
Here are some tips for surviving your wedding planning:
- Talk with your partner about your doubts and fears. Make sure you iron out all your doubts now instead of waiting until after the marriage, hoping it will work itself out.
- Determine what it is you are really questioning—whether it’s the relationship itself or simply the daunting idea of marriage. If your answer is the latter, know that many couples go through the same fears –after all, you are about to take a huge step in your life.
- Ask yourself some questions about any changes that have taken place or that you have discovered since the engagement. Is your partner exhibiting a different behavior or engaging in activities you disapprove of? These are things that should be addressed before you proceed with the wedding plans.
- Look to or perhaps talk to couples who have survived and celebrated many years of marriage. They can be a good source of support and great role models.
- Set aside some time before the wedding to spend a romantic evening with your partner, away from all the wedding talk and plans.
- Consider going to a couple’s counselor to talk out your doubts. This step doesn’t mean your relationship is falling apart, and for many couples it can reaffirm their commitment to the relationship. You will find you can develop important communication skills that will help you as you begin your married life together. Most congregations or churches offer counseling sessions.
All brides need to appreciate their pre-wedding jitters, often called butterflies or cold feet. Instead of running away from your anxiety, you need to confront it and say what you are feeling out loud. Express it instead of suppressing it.
Finally, you need to surrender your emotions to the special day coming up. Know that things have a way of working themselves out. When things are natural, you will find the reason to smile and really have a good time without being forced. Look for ways to really pamper yourself and make sure that you are radiant on your special day. Put your focus on the love that you have for one another and magic will happen.
This unity is what the both of you gift to one another, lovingly.
With Mother’s Day fast approaching, it’s hard not to think about everything our mothers have done for us, and what we’d like to give back to them. Most mothers are guiding forces in our lives, helping us and supporting us. This is no small feat.
We see the sacrifices our mothers make for us—not only physically as we were carried in their womb, but emotionally as well. Raising children is never easy, and it requires a huge amount of patience, understanding, and compassion. Pregnancy and childbirth alone can be difficult. There are no words to truly describe the effects our parents have on us—their role is so important that it’s impossible to step back and look at our relationship objectively.
When we focus on the positive aspects of our lives–our loved ones, our support networks, our attitudes–it is easier to handle the negatives. We need to learn to re-program our minds, to speak to ourselves in life-affirming “I Am” statements. I am loved, I am content, I am healthy.
When you find yourself having negative thoughts, stop and acknowledge to yourself what you are thinking. Internally imagine windshields wiping away, or say “Cancel.” You then create a positive affirmation that FEELS GOOD IN YOUR BODY.
Some examples of helpful statements are: I am kind and loving, and I am grateful for all that I have and feel right now. Choose the statement that feels most natural to you. Close your eyes, dive deep into your heart, and give thanks.
As we grow up to be adults and begin to look more like our mother, and often behave like them, we are our own unique selves! We come through our mothers – but we are not them. Let go of the negative stressors and anxieties that keep you from living a healthy life. When you are a thankful, present person, you attract MORE of what you are grateful for!
We all get caught up in our everyday stresses. But we can take the small opportunities—Mother’s Day, a wedding, a graduation—to celebrate our families and let them know how grateful we are. Do your best to make your relationships with your parents and all of your family members the best that it can be.
Give back to those who have given you so much! Treat your family members to a relaxing massage from HealWithin. We have gift certificates available at (818)551-1501. We have gift certificates available.
“It is not the magnitude of our actions but the amount of love that is put into them that matters”. – Mother Teresa
Ways to Relieve Stress for Healthy Relationships
In case you haven’t heard (you know, because of all the stress in your life) — April is National Stress Awareness Month.
It’s wonderful to have family and friends supporting us, but often those people can be sources of stress themselves. Unexpected stresses like a loss of job, a loved one’s death, or health problems can negatively affect relationships and cause unwanted stress. If someone you love is going through a stressful period, it can be just as hard for you as you try to give them what they need while keeping yourself healthy and motivated.
Sometimes all it takes is to think outside the box!
Here are some tips to help you and your loved ones relieve stress:
1 – Recognize what you can change and what you can’t. If your partner is struggling with a sudden change, like a loss of job, they are having a hard time adjusting their lives accordingly. We can’t control many of the obstacles life throws at us, but we can change our attitudes towards these obstacles. Try not to let the stress of outside forces affect your feelings within.
2 – Spend time with yourself. Take time to experience something that brings you joy, be it hobbies, meditation, or simply spending time alone with your thoughts. Treat yourself to a massage or a nice meal. This will help you return to your loved one refreshed and strong enough for them to lean on.
3 – Remember that your words and actions affect your world, both outside and inside. One simple act of kindness can brighten someone’s day. When your partner is feeling down, you help them in every way you can, because you know that if the roles were reversed they would do the same. See the many ways your positive energy comes back to you.
4 – Change your routine. Sometimes the simple act of trying something new can be beneficial. Stress and anxiety can make people feel like they’ve lost all control over their circumstances. When you engage in a new activity, like traveling, sports, or even going to a new restaurant, it can help put things in perspective.
Take a moment and think of emotions like waves in the ocean… sometimes there are high tides where you feel as if you cannot see the open sky. Since you are already in the water, that means you know how to swim. Now what I recommend is for you to learn to ride the waves! Understand that emotions can sometimes escalate but more often than not, the ocean can be quite calm and serene. By learning to ride the waves, you take control and can swim easily and effortlessly.
To learn more about relieving stress and anxiety, you can attend our seminar on Overcoming Stress, Anxiety and Panic Attacks—Naturally.
Tune in to our next segment where I share more tips on relieving stress and anxiety.
To Your Health,
Nervous habits like nail biting or hair pulling–why do we do these things to our bodies? Is it out of fear? Boredom? Stress?
Skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting are labeled as Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. Nail biters often keep their hands hidden behind their backs. They often feel social embarrassment and experience out-of-control feelings at times. At times they may wonder why they can’t stop. Habits as such start from early childhood years when faced with problems or issues that we don’t know how to voice, respond or resolve. This is a coping mechanism – a way to comfort or punish the self.
At the most basic level, these symptoms satisfy an urge. When sufferers feel stressed, pulling, picking, tapping, cutting or biting has a kind of soothing effect on their nervous systems and reduces levels of stimulation. On the other hand, when they are bored or inactive, they seem to provide a needed level of stimulation to the nervous system.
These symptoms can be overcome if you have the motivation. More important is learning to “de-stigmatize” yourself. You are not crazy, helpless, morally weak, or totally out of control, even though you may feel like you are at times. You can find a recovery for these habits if you are willing to work at it.
Therapy For People Who Bite Their Nails
To start with, nail biting is a stress-related habit. So the first part of the hypnotherapy is to teach the individual how to be more relaxed. I have found that traditional hypnosis, Ericksonian hypnosis, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming techniques are usually quite effective. That’s because the very essence of hypnosis is relaxation.
The second part of the therapy teaches the individual to become aware of this unconscious habit. Suggestions can be given to the subconscious mind to make the conscious mind aware that you are about to bite your nails. Then you can consciously decide whether or not you are actually going to bite them.
The third part of the hypnotherapy is to eliminate the compulsion to bite. There are techniques that actually program the client with a compulsion to reject biting his/her nails.
Being realistic is very important. You have rehearsed the unwanted habit hundreds or even thousands of times. You will need to accept that the urge to bite your nails will not be overcome in few days, but through hypnotherapy and consistency, you can overcome these habits. Most importantly, you’ll feel good about your success!
To learn more about dealing with stress and anxiety in a healthy, positive way, attend our Overcoming Stress, Anxiety, and Panic Attack seminar on May 2nd from 7-9pm at the Glendale Hilton Hotel. You will learn techniques to cope with the stressors, plus instant relaxation and self-hypnosis. Let go of your bad habits and become a more relaxed, renewed you! To register, please go to HealWithin.com.
It’s Spring, time to blossom and to do Spring Cleaning on your self, beliefs and attitude.
If you are still holding onto some old beliefs and conceptions that you’ve missed the boat when it comes to love, career, opportunities, age, mentality, or finance, it’s time to let them go and turn over a new leaf! Negative self-talk and beliefs are only true if you say they are. In order to manifest whatever you hold yourself back from or fear, you must choose to believe and move forward in life towards what you want and away from what you don’t want.
Spring is a time known for clarity: clarity in love and relationships, work and success, and life in general. It is also known for sunny days and play dates. Most of us who enjoy the outdoors, camping, or strolls with the kids and dogs are exposed to grass and allergies.
Hypnosis can help not only in delving within your core self to becoming clear of your true highest intentions, it can also help clear your allergies. Here is a ten step method to clear your allergies and becoming clearer in your intentions and healwithin! To start with:
-Make yourself comfortable. in a chair or lie down.
-Close your eyes and concentrate on relaxing your body. from head to toe.
-Introduce soothing images into your mind. Visualize trees, clam water, puffy white clouds, pastural scenes.
-Regulate your breathing to simulate that of sleeping person: slow and regular.
1. MY MIND IS IN COMMAND OF MY BODY. MY MIND CONTROLS ALL OF MY BODILY FUNCTIONS.
Relax and concentrate until you feel as though your entire body is being controlled by your mind’s power. Then continue to number two.
2. I AM FREE OF ALLERGIES. I HAVE NEVER HAD ALLERGIES.
Relax and concentrate for several moments. Then continue to number three.
3. ALL SENSITIVITY IN MY NOSE AND EYES WILL MOVE TO MY SCALP.
Relax and concentrate. Move all of your mental energy to your nose and eyes. As soon as you have total concentration in this area, concentrate on removing that sensitivity from your nose and eyes, up your forehead, and to your scalp. Mentally visualize this movement. As soon as you feel the movement or a tingling sensation in your scalp, imagine 10 fingers massaging your scalp and opening the pores – letting it flow out and away from your scalp – now go to number four.
4. MY MIND IS IN COMMAND OF MY BODY.
Pause and concentrate.
I AM FEELING BETTER THAN I HAVE EVER FELT BEFORE IN MY LIFE.
Pause and concentrate.
I AM FREE OF ALLERGIES. I HAVE NEVER HAD ALLERGIES.
Relax and concentrate for several moments. Then continue to number five.
5. I AM FREE OF ALLERGIES. I HAVE NEVER HAD ALLERGIES.
Relax and concentrate for several moments. Then go to number six.
6. ALL SENSITIVITY IN MY NOSE AND EYES WILL GO TO MY SCALP.
Relax and concentrate. Move all of your mental energy to your nose and eyes. As soon as you have total concentration in this area, concentrate on removing that sensitivity from your nose and eyes, up your forehead, and to your scalp. Mentally visualize this movement. As soon as you feel the movement or a tingling sensation in your scalp, go to number seven.
7. MY MIND IS IN COMMAND OF MY BODY.
Pause and concentrate.
I AM FEELING BETTER THAN I HAVE EVER FELT BEFORE IN MY LIFE.
Pause and concentrate.
I CHOOSE TO NEVER ACCEPT SINUS ALLERGIES AGAIN.
Pause and concentrate.
MY MIND IS IN CONTROL OF MY BODY.
Relax and concentrate for several moments. Then go to number eight.
8. I AM FREE OF ALLERGIES. I HAVE NEVER HAD ALLERGIES. ALL SENSITIVITY IN MY NOSE AND EYES WILL MOVE TO MY SCALP.
Relax and once again concentrate all of your mental energy to your nose and eyes, and again mentally visualize the movement of sensitivity to your scalp – massaging it out and away. After you feel the movement or tingling sensation in your scalp go to number nine.
9. MY MIND IS IN TOTAL COMMAND OF MY BODY. WHEN I SAY THE WORD TEN, ALL OF MY MENTAL ENERGY WILL BE CONCENTRATED IN MY NOSE AND EYES. ALL SENSITIVITY IN MY NOSE AND EYES WILL MOVE TO MY SCALP. AFTER I REPEAT THE WORD TEN, I WILL OPEN MY EYES AND FEEL BETTER THAN I HAVE EVER FELT BEFORE IN MY LIFE.
Relax and concentrate for several moments. Then go to number ten.
10. All of your mental energy now is concentrated in your nose and eyes. Mentally visualize the sensitivity as it moves from your nose and eyes to your scalp. When you feel the movement or a tingling in your scalp, hold your concentration there for several moments. Now repeat the word
After opening your eyes, you should feel relaxed and refreshed, better than you have ever felt before in your life.
Love. It’s right up there with air, food and water as the most necessary of ingredients for existence. And yet, for many people, it’s the hardest thing to find and perhaps even harder to hold on to. Many of my clients have difficulty expressing love for the fear of getting hurt. The truth is you’re not perfect, and neither is your partner. But you can be perfectly imperfect together.
It is the imperfections that make us into something beautiful and unique. In many ways, relating to someone or something is mostly choice and perception. I say this because it is possible to be “in love” with someone one day, but unable to be in the same room with them the next. Our feelings did not change, but the way in which we perceive them may have. You choose to making this change happen!
Start projecting the real You. Your Authentic Self. You will find yourself not only attractive to others, but becoming more attractive within – on the road to a realistic and satisfying relationship. Being with a committed partner can feel fantastic and safe and all those things in great movies and books. But it’s definitely not the only thing in life worth living for — it sure doesn’t even guarantee happiness.
Begin doing things to make finding the right person easier: Make room for him in your life; Be the kind of person who would attract the kind of man you are looking for; and let your social circle know you are ready and willing to be set up. The one thing you need to stop doing — is obsess about when and whether you’d ever meet Ms. or Mr. Right.
Obsession in itself is negative energy. When you are consumed with such thoughts and you surround yourself with negativity, thus, not living with light. If and when you do attract someone, it will be of negative vibes and negativity. Allow yourself to be comfortable and OK with yourself – because you are just fine! As you begin to smile and accept yourself as you are, you’ll feel lighter and radiate light - and watch magic happen!
Enlightenment is said to be the key to everything, and it is the key to Intimacy, because that is the goal of true authenticity. Our Ego presents itself through behaviors that include aggression, defensiveness, anger, neediness, manipulation, and avoidance. In working through these issues, trusting ourselves and learning to surrender to the behaviors that form walls around our hearts, we can attain our True Authentic Self.
Love knows how to form itself. God will do his work if we do ours. Our job is to prepare ourselves for love. When we do, love finds us every time. Being alone is not the same as being lonely. When you feel lonely, pick up a book, go for a walk, call a friend. You never know, perhaps you’ll meet that one very special person on your next trail or brisk walk!
Spirituality is about the intersection of the human and the divine. So not only is there inner work to be done, there’s also outer work to be done. You might open the door to your own house or apartment and take a brutally honest look: Is this someplace that would feel like home? How comfortable am I here? Most importantly, How comfortable am I with myself and my body?
You have to make a space in your heart, in your mind and in your life in order to create authentic human connection and feel Love Within
Love is all around us, all the time. Love is the amniotic fluid of the soul. The issue is when issues of the Ego and our constant emphasis on the realm of the body rather than the realm of love, eclipse the experience of True Love. Did you know you can “love” someone deeply and yet not “like” them as a person or agree with their actions? Yes – it is very possible. When you understand yourself better and remove negative beliefs and experiences through healing within, you’ll be poised to have greater success in relationships.
The question is: How can you create healthier relationships?
Hypnotherapy can help you transform your pain into acceptance and pleasure, while helping you to create authentic human connections and healthy relationships for life. These techniques include:
- Improving trust and communication
- Improving conflict resolution and misunderstanding
- Healing old relationship wounds
- Helping you appreciate and accept yourself for who you are – just as you are!
- ….and more
I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person. ~Audrey Hepburn
Healthy eating is not about strict nutrition philosophies, staying unrealistically thin, or depriving yourself of the foods you love. Rather, it’s about feeling great, having more energy, keeping yourself as healthy as possible– and above all, loving your body just as you are– all of which can be achieved.
Conventional nutrition advice says eating fat will make you fat. In order to prevent weight gain and stay healthy, you should eat a low-fat diet. This school of thought is fully embraced by many nutritionists, dietitians, personal trainers, doctors, and even our government agencies. The truth is that there is no evidence that healthy fats are bad for you; as a matter of fact, they are essential for your body functions. Eating foods high in healthy fats doesn’t mean that you will get fat.
There are two types of weight: Physical weight and Emotional weight. We all need to eat to survive. Many eat when hungry; others overeat when stressed, anxious, nervous, happy and etc. You know the term “emotional eating” do you not? Think back and take stock of how many times have you gone on a diet and gained some, if not all the weight back. It wasn’t until the last 30-40 years that Americans have become so fat phobic and eaten so much low-fat and fat-free foods, yet Americans are getting fatter and heavier. Why? What does research say about the mechanism behind weight gain? Eat a variety of foods, exercise, uncover the emotional cravings, and watch the fat burn off your body.
Are you now wondering if this will work for you? The answer is: Yes – It Can!
Even clients who were referred to us months after their lap band surgery where they gained their weight back found hypnosis to be helpful. Why? Because although they cut and took the physical weight off, their subconscious mind still believed and/or tricked their mind in thinking “I am fat”, or not deserving of the thinner body, and many other emotional reasons unique to each individual.
At HealWithin, we can help boost your self-confidence, understand your past behaviors and patterns and learn how you can now finally let go and shed layers of emotional weight you’ve held on to (either knowingly or unknowingly) through hypnotherapy. For better results, our Certified Dietician, Julie can also assist you with specific foods and nutrients according to your needs. Hypnotherapy helps: Gain better mental focus, emotional strength and healthier habits. Call us today and find out how we can help you achieve having the body you truly desire and wish for.
You can achieve similar results at home with our Hypnosis CDs for weight loss and exercise.
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